New Year

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I know for a lot of people 2016 was a hard year, even looking at the news we were surrounded by tragedy there was the Flint Michigan water crisis, (which is still going on) the Zika outbreak which caused Olympians to not compete in the games, the Ecuadorian earthquake and lets not forget Donald Trump trumpbecoming President Elect.

For me this year was awesome! It was officially the first year in 8 that I was not married (I was separated at the end of 2014, and the divorce was not final until 3/2015) and also the year that I would say goodbye to single life!!!

I know that I will look at these years and I will always look fondly at them, it was at this time that I realized just how much I can do. I saw that I am so much more than a wife and mom, I am a woman that has goals, and that has fought through adversity and won. I returned to school and got a new job that will help give me experience that will be vital once my degree is obtained.

I became comfortable with being a 20 something that was divorced and has 2 kids. A funny story with this actually had to do with my high school reunion. I was talking to a classmate and showed her a picture of the girls Aaron was with me, and after she had looked at the pictures, she gave me a concerned expression and said: ” I see you in them but no offense I do not see you (pointing at Aaron) at all.” You can imagine what our reaction was we both looked at each other and laughed! Then I replied “well that’s a good thing cause their not his! I have been married, had kids and divorced in 10 years, what have you been up to?”

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This has been a remarkable year, right now on my tree I have an ornament that is of three snowmen on a sleigh. I got this once my ex left, and it has three names, Mommy, Faith, and Becky. I will never get rid of this, and I am sure it will always hang on my tree, but next year I look forward to hanging another one (maybe right beside it) that has 4 (or maybe 5 😉 ) names on it. 🙂

 

Happy New year I hope your 2017 is extraordinary!!!!!

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Best Friends Part 1

ImageI have 2 people in my life that I would consider my best friends; my husband (Erkki) and someone I have known since the 7th grade, Kristen. These two people have helped me through the hardest times in my life and I do not know where I would be without them today.

This week I was watching my daughter swim and noticed how easily she can make friends, in her 5 year old world all it takes is someone mentioning My Little Pony and her heart is instantly theirs. As I was watching this I realized that as adults we cannot (or at least do not) walk up to a stranger easily and start a conversation. Even when I bring my children to the park the kids all join in a big group and play while all the adults stand to the side and either read their book or their phones and silently will that no one enters into communication with them.

ImageThis reminded me of my two best friends, the first I want to mention is Kristen. She came to my school in 7th grade and to put it short her first impression of me was not the best. However we quickly grew over our love for Celine Dion (which was not that common in 7th graders) and since then our friendship has just grown stronger. When we entered high school we only spent 1 year together right before sophomore year she moved about an 1 hour away and transferred to a new school. This was hard having my best friend so far away but as soon as I had my license things got back to normal.

Kristen and I went on vacations together, comforted each other when our hearts were broken (mine more often than hers) and just hung out. Then in 2005 we graduated high school, Kris went to college in NY and I entered the workforce. That year we kept in a little contact, but not enough. Our lives were very different and we could not really relate with one another, again communication slowed way down.

Then in October of 2006 as Kris was entering her sophomore year of college (now back home) I was getting married; I am happy to say that she was there and this still means a lot to me. However as time went by we again began to grow apart ( I was married and she was a single college student). Then in late 2007 I became pregnant with my first daughter, Kris was there toward the end of the pregnancy (even at my baby shower and the hospital!) and our relationship was again blooming. Then in 2009 both Kristen and I were expecting! This was what we always wanted to have children the same age and to be able to experience raising our kids together, it was at this time that our relationship returned back to normal.

ImageToday I am happy to know that she is still in my life, she is 1 of 2 people that really knows me. When I see how easily my daughter makes friends I am happy to see that she has the social capabilities of a 5 year old, as for me I am happy with what I have and I think I will just keep reading my book at the park willing people to not talk to me.

If you want to know more about Kris here is the link to her blog you should check this out (trust me she is a very interesting person) http://kayfroebel.com/

Oh yeah Happy New Year!!!Image

Being Thankful

Now I know that thankfulness usually comes around Thanksgiving, however for me this is coming Imagenow; during the Christmas season. My daughter Faith is 5 years old, by this time the doctors had told us to expect her to have been through at least 2 open heart surgeries, however she has only had 1. Next week she visits her cardiologist for a full work up (echo, ekg, and office visit) this might be the appointment that we find out it is time or we might get another 6 months before she needs to be seen.

Either way I am thankful for the time that we have had surgery free, and I know that even if surgery is in the near future for us it does not matter because up to this point we have been living on borrowed time.

I hope you all had a great Holiday and an awesome New Year!