Love

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What is love? Can someone fall in love to just fall out? These are all questions I have wondered about (honestly I think we have all thought these at one point or another)

About a month ago I came across an article that said if you sit down with someone and answer 36 questions then stare into the persons eyes for 4 minutes you will fall in love. I find this so intriguing because I used to feel strongly that love is a choice that is made daily and the questions that are asked can be very intimate. Now it makes me wonder what is it about these questions that helps people feel connected to one another?

I wish I knew someone that tried this! I just want to know if it actually works, can love really be that simple?

I am in a relationship with a great guy, we have been seeing each other for about 3 months now and I must say that I am falling for him (I may have already fallen 😉  ) The more I talk to him and get to know him the more I want to spend time with him, is this what the questions do? Do they help you to get to know someone but quicker?

I have to admit out of pure curiosity I have been tempted to ask him to do the questions with me, but then reasoning kicks in and I won’t ask him because I don’t want him to think I’m crazy! But still love is such a weird emotion that we have all experienced, and there are even different types of love. The way I love my girls is very different than the way I love my best friend and different from the way that I loved my ex. Even with all these different types of love it is still such an intimate emotion that can either make our better and help us feel like we are on top of the world or it can destroy us. That right there shows it power.

A recent study was done on college students who admitted that they were in love, and the results show that when in love certain parts of the brain light up and have increased activity. They also did a study at the same time to see what type of reactions that brain has to lust and it was found that love and lust do not activate the same part of the brain! So love and lust are not the same thing. They also studied people who were in love but the love was not mutual and parts of the brain that are associated with physical pain were lit up, this helps explain why love can hurt so bad.

So we can now see love in people’s brains but we still don’t understand the why, I think this is a question that will always have a question mark at the end of it. We don’t know why we love all we know is that we all love to love!!

Here is the link to the 36 questions:

http://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/modern-love-to-fall-in-love-with-anyone-do-this.html?_r=0

And here is a CNN link describing the study and the results:

http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/02/14/love.science/

Oh yeah Happy Easter!!giphy

Best Days of Your Life, Divorce update

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I recently came across a song by Kelli Pickler “Best Days of Your Life” and at first I thought it was awesome! It is about a guy regretting leaving a girl and how when he was with her that was already the best days of his life. For anyone who is going through heartbreak this is a great message it helps get you through and realize that the person that left was the one is is now going to miss out.

Right after my ex left one of my friends sent me the above picture and it made me feel great! This is what I needed at the time I needed to believe that he was making a mistake, it was what helped me get through the day.

But I found once that heart break  begins to heal (in my case at least) I have come to the realization that yes my ex left me but he left me for a reason and maybe the best years of his life are still ahead of him (I truly hope so).

We all want to feel vindicated, but that does not mean that we all are. Sometimes love just ends and it isn’t a bad thing it just means that you get to out and find it again!

Divorce update:

So my state motto is “Live Free or Die” and apparently this goes for divorce also! All I am waiting on now is for my ex to sign the papers then we can file and anywhere from 2 weeks to 2 months later we will be divorced! No waiting period, no appearance in front of a judge all we have to do is take a parenting class and wait for the judge to sign the papers.

It is a weird feeling to be excited for this all to be over, I think at this point I am just ready to move on and begin my new life. It’s nice living in reality.

I will always look at our marriage fondly but I am now ready to close that book and throw it in the fire! (Just kidding!)