Finding love

About 2 years ago my life was just being put back together, I was coming out of the darkness that my divorce caused. By the end of January of that year I was healed and ready to move on. Now, this did not mean I was ready to date, but it did mean I was ready to live my life, so one weekend when my children were with their dad, I called up an old friend. Now calling this person a friend is using the term loosely, the connection is hard but give me a minute to explain this…

Okay so this person is Aaron

My ex-mother-in-law was in her 4th marriage when I got married, she married a man named Dale and Dale has triplets that are my age and a younger child (who I think is 5 years younger) so for a time Dale’s children were my step siblings in-laws.

When I was pregnant with Faith, Dale’s daughter (one of the triplets) began dating Aaron. I actually met him for the first time when I was 36 weeks expecting!

They dated for about 4 years and broke up when Becky was around 1, in this time we would talk and were friendly but nothing more (we were both in love and in committed

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Faith playing with Uncle Aaron

relationships) Faith actually called him Uncle Aaron!

 

Fast forward 2 years and I was at a gas station filling up when I saw someone I recognized at another pump, it was Aaron. Now, my looks had changed since he had last seen me, the baby weight was gone and really he only knew me when I was either pregnant or postpartum. I was excited to see him after so long so I went over and he didn’t even recognize me! We talked and I invited him to dinner so we all (myself, my ex-husband and himself) could catch up. This dinner never happened and in retrospect, it’s probably a good thing 😉 .

Now fast forward another 2 years I knew he was living in the area and really I just wanted to go out one night. I called him to see if he was available and we talked for 2 hours and decided to meet that weekend for “a girls night out”. Well, to say the least, that night did not turn out to be a girls night out it was in fact, our first date. From there, our relationship slowly grew (of course we began dating right before my ex-husband took his 1st month long hiatus) so we had to take things slow. The beginning was hard and I relied on family and friends to watch the girls for me so we could see each other, and in this first month, I think we saw each other a whopping 3 times!!

But regardless of the time, we spent together our relationship continued to grow and then the weekend of Mother’s day 2015 he met the girls for the first time!

Since that point, things have just gone up and this past September he proposed and I said yes!!

The wedding is scheduled for June and we are all so happy, the girls love him and so do I. I am thankful that he is in our life and am looking forward to spending the rest of my life with him.

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Best Friends Part 1

ImageI have 2 people in my life that I would consider my best friends; my husband (Erkki) and someone I have known since the 7th grade, Kristen. These two people have helped me through the hardest times in my life and I do not know where I would be without them today.

This week I was watching my daughter swim and noticed how easily she can make friends, in her 5 year old world all it takes is someone mentioning My Little Pony and her heart is instantly theirs. As I was watching this I realized that as adults we cannot (or at least do not) walk up to a stranger easily and start a conversation. Even when I bring my children to the park the kids all join in a big group and play while all the adults stand to the side and either read their book or their phones and silently will that no one enters into communication with them.

ImageThis reminded me of my two best friends, the first I want to mention is Kristen. She came to my school in 7th grade and to put it short her first impression of me was not the best. However we quickly grew over our love for Celine Dion (which was not that common in 7th graders) and since then our friendship has just grown stronger. When we entered high school we only spent 1 year together right before sophomore year she moved about an 1 hour away and transferred to a new school. This was hard having my best friend so far away but as soon as I had my license things got back to normal.

Kristen and I went on vacations together, comforted each other when our hearts were broken (mine more often than hers) and just hung out. Then in 2005 we graduated high school, Kris went to college in NY and I entered the workforce. That year we kept in a little contact, but not enough. Our lives were very different and we could not really relate with one another, again communication slowed way down.

Then in October of 2006 as Kris was entering her sophomore year of college (now back home) I was getting married; I am happy to say that she was there and this still means a lot to me. However as time went by we again began to grow apart ( I was married and she was a single college student). Then in late 2007 I became pregnant with my first daughter, Kris was there toward the end of the pregnancy (even at my baby shower and the hospital!) and our relationship was again blooming. Then in 2009 both Kristen and I were expecting! This was what we always wanted to have children the same age and to be able to experience raising our kids together, it was at this time that our relationship returned back to normal.

ImageToday I am happy to know that she is still in my life, she is 1 of 2 people that really knows me. When I see how easily my daughter makes friends I am happy to see that she has the social capabilities of a 5 year old, as for me I am happy with what I have and I think I will just keep reading my book at the park willing people to not talk to me.

If you want to know more about Kris here is the link to her blog you should check this out (trust me she is a very interesting person) http://kayfroebel.com/

Oh yeah Happy New Year!!!Image