As my girls are getting older I find myself worrying about the long term effects of having a father that is not active in their life. He choses when he wants to be apart of it and that takes a tremendous toll on their mental health. This actually brings be back to a post I made right when I was going through the divorce Dads where are you? At the time writing this, I was hopeful that my girls dad would actually see them at least once a week. Today he hasn’t seen them since Jan 1st (to be that hopeful woman again….) In the post I mentioned that most children grow up without their dad and unfortunately my girls are falling into that statistic.
Recently I have needed to block their Father from my oldest daughter’s phone, this was because the conversations they were having with their dad was not healthy for their mental health. Once off the phone there was crying and distress that I had to combat and comfort. I was frank with him and told him that he could still speak with them but it had to be through my phone or my husbands and I would monitor the conversation to make sure if they were getting upset I would immediately end it. Ugh, so much fun…..
But for now they are happy and I will count my blessings, they have a Step-Dad who loves them like his own and 2 little brothers who are mirror imagines of their big sisters! When you have children you know that you can’t protect them from everything but I never thought I would have to protect them from their own father.